Thank you Dave Matthews for that title. :-)
One of my biggest issues with the male to female relationship is my encounters with men that don't talk about stuff. Therefore, I may have unfairly categorized that all men don't talk. I was told once that such a axiom is not true, but I have no evidence to prove that. For the first time in my life, that statement is NOT criticism, merely observation and my acceptance ( not my liking) of such a fact.
Anywho, in hanging out with my women folk, I have talked like never before and they talk too. The problem with talking; once you have said it, you forget what you said. Hmmmm. Maybe there is an advantage to staying in your head..... maybe.
Topics for now or never -(I'll try to hit at least one for my own sake)
#1 - Strata of relationships. There was this diagram with 4 circles representing relational categories - acquaintance, friend, close friend, intimate relationship. I see that this is a socially accepted strata, although I openly admit that I have NO comprehension for such a thing. I mean I understand that other people may have this for themselves, but as for me ( and as I have come to find, one of my friends as well....which makes me feel a little more normal) I have 1 BIG circle. People go as far in that circle as they want to ( we are speaking talking only now) unless they totally violate trust where I throw them out of the very big circle. There is no idea of promotion or demotion, just acceptance or dismissal.
#2 - Criteria for relationship - well, having stated the above that doesn't seem logically very applicable for me, but there are a few, maybe, for entrance into the big circle. What they are .... I'm not sure I know. Good hygiene is a good place to start. ;-)
#3 - SEX IN THE CITY - this one will get an entry to itself.
#4 - Saying you're sorry. Do you have a place in time you wish you could return to and say you're sorry to someone ?? Maybe several?
#5 - The 5 love languages - no, this is not linguistic study related. It is how people give and receive love. There are 5 ( duh, I wrote that earlier); touch, quality time, words of affirmation, service , and gifts. I find this fascinating. I know how I prefer to show love and I think I may have figured out how I like to receive it too, which offers some strong vulnerabilities and reasons for things and, perhaps more evidence of causation of bad choices. I may explain, I may not. It is my blog after all ;-). Do you know how you give love? How you are able to? How you prefer to receive it? Rumor has it that most guys are a fan of verbal affirmation. I don't know if that is a generality or not, but, that's the word on the street. Briargate blvd, that is.
#6 - The power of the tongue - no, this is not a sexual entry, although after watching Sex in the City, there might be good reason to make it one. Have you ever just said the wrong thing.... like all the time? I live this dream. In my head, it makes sense, sounds perfect. I know what I mean so why wouldn't everyone else? Bad assumption. The ironic thing is that I honestly don't place a ton of power in the spoken word IF I have other sources of information. If I can get at the sentiment, words don't matter that much to me. If the tone or body language don't match the words, I don't believe them. If the actions don't match, I actually stop listening, or, if I care enough, bring the discrepancy to their attention and see if they can explain/ justify. But, I often find myself saying the wrong thing, the wrong way, at the wrong time, with such great expectation and instead reap great trauma. This causes me great consternation. Not a pleasant sensation. Bad and poor communication is the cause of much frustration.
#7 - Being overly critical - well if I didn't care, I wouldn't say anything about what you are wearing. :-) All the same, there's room for improvement here. But I am an artist. What else is there but criticism? ( that is sarcasm folks.... geesh)
#8 - Being too sarcastic -see #7
On to next entry....
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