What's on your mind ?

I think that most people would be a lot happier if they learned to just say what's on their mind instead of hiding it. 


Let's have some fun shall we?? Thank you B.C. for offering this. 


Now, do you "really" think people would be happier doing that?


This may tie into that whole "secrets" entry I am working on, but I'm still..... contemplating/brooding on that entry as a whole. ;-)


For some things, it's so very easy to say what's on your mind;  "I'm cold." "I hate that sweater" " I really like that song". But for the most part, those things are very superficial at best. Or, at least at very low risk.


But to say things that hit closer to a person, they are much harder to iterate, aren't they? Or is that just me? For instance (in hypotheticals) I could never easily tell a family member. "I think you are being incredibly rude and sincerely wish you would be more considerate" or tell a co-worker "Your assessment of your own wisdom is very over-inflated" or tell someone you have feelings for ....... whatever it is you can't say to them in person.


Who does it help to say these things? The other person? Hmm, I think you can argue that by just considering yourself that other person. It's only nice when it's something you "want" to hear.


Does it help the confessor? Well, that's what I'm trying to find out with that other blog, but I guess it depends on what the utterer is looking to accomplish. When a person shares their mind they kind of are assuming the other person cares what they think, or at least has an interest in what they are talking about and value their opinion. What if they don't? What if what's on "your" mind just makes another angry, or upset, or uncomfortable? What then???


In that vein, isn't speaking your mind a type of selfish act?


Sharing your mind, much like sharing your heart, is occassionally a risk taking venture....like swimming in greatly varied, unknown, bodies of water. Much better to test and be familiar with the water, knowing there's a chance there are some places you may never be safe to swim. Doesn't mean dangerous waters can't be very,very enticing and it doesn't mean we don't sometimes swim in them anyway. 


And, when exposing a part of yourself, let's say skinny dipping, sometimes it's much more comfortable to be by one's self. ( granted it may not be as enjoyable) 


Have I killed that analogy enough ??????


I guess, some thoughts I share like breath and others, sometimes I hold onto until;
 -  I deem them worthy or safe to share
 - they dissolve
 - they just can't be self contained any longer.

Or, if of a personal nature, until a person they are meant for asks for them. 


Some thoughts I want to hold onto forever while others I pray will fade away. And then, sometimes after those desired to fade thoughts have done so, they are revived and come back just as present as they ever were, if not more so.


Life's a pisser like that sometimes.


I have spoken enough of my mind tonight ;-)




“When a secret is revealed, it is the fault of the man who confided it”

Secret thoughts and open countenance will go safely over the whole world.