Now comes the invite of the movie. Eeeek the MOVIE !! The second to last guy I went out with was the hand holding type. Okay, that in itself isn't terrible ( as there have been times in my life where it would have been nice had the guy done that) but on the "first" meeting?? Yeah, not so much. Plus he had really sweaty hands. Yucky :-( He needs to appreciate the fact that I was polite that day instead of just quickly pulling my hand away and promptly wiping it off on my pants. Ick. Just thinking about that makes my face pucker as if I had just sucked on a lemon. It's one of those gross uncomfortable date things.
Well, so I'm not sure I want to hold hands with this guy.... yet or ever. Is that a sign?? On one hand it's like "holding hands, what's the big deal?" to the other hand of "physical contact of any sort needs to be appropriate to the feelings and desires of both parties". I'm not disgusted by the idea, I'm just not all excited about it either. And I'm not sure if after the fact I'd be relieved if it didn't happen or simply disappointed.
And butterflies, how important are they really?? I have had butterflies once or twice, but they didn't amount to much. Actually, I guess they really didn't amount to anything. What good are butterflies if they aren't mutual anyway?? Even if they were, can't butterflies fly away as easily as they came?
I asked this question in an earlier post " When someone marries a partner because they are a good stable person even though the fire and butterfly feeling isn't there, is that settling? Or is that making a choice and/or a sacrifice?" Well, I ask that again, more seriously. Is this worth investigating to see if this.... fits? I am currently thinking of relationships as clothes buying. There are those clothes that you'd love to have but the cut or style would just never look good on you or the clothes that make you look and feel great, but you can't afford. These are the folks that you fall for but they have no interest in you. Then you have the clothes that you look great in and you can afford. These are those precious mutual butterfly, mutual interest, born for each other types. Ladies, you know how often that happens. Then you have the clothes that you love, that look great on you, that you can afford, and that only last about 7 wearings before they snag, shrink, have a hole, tear, rip, or some other malfunction that ruins that initial purchase perfection. Then you have the clothes that you may not look the best in, but are comfortable and reliable -those Wal-mart Hanes sweatsuits. Lastly you have the clothes that look like crap and feel like crap on you. Try not to buy those.
So how do you figure out which situation it is?? I guess you have to try them on. Is that what dating is, trying people on?? And how many times do you try something on before you determine whether you like the fit or not?? I personally am tired of finding clothes that either I can't stand, or clothes that make me feel great, but I can't afford. Maybe settling or searching for that great pair of sweats for comfort isn't so bad??? So I don't look to kill. There are no butterflies, or excitement spawned stomach turns. Is that so bad? Or it that a recipe for regret later??
Ugh !!!! Maybe I should consider the nunnery. Less hassle.
4 comments:
I feel your pain.
I think dating is a lot of trying people out to find that match that fits. The person that hits 9 or 10 on various scales. But you gotta get out there to do it. At least, that is my understanding. I haven't actually been able to pull it off myself. It is a huge pain in the ass.
With that said, the thing that strikes me most about your post is the feeling that you are over thinking the hell out of this. :)
:-) That is my special gift. Kinda sucks, huh? ;-)
I agree wholeheartedly with both of Ryan's main points!
May I clarify for the record, that both of you are requesting that I think less?? I find that mildly amusing. :-)
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