This has been one the hardest things to witness in my son's growing up.
He, in first grade, already has this thing for having female admirers, sometimes called girlfriends. They aren't girlfriends in the 13 year old and up sense, but girlfriends none the less. His father says Christian takes after him. The humor of that is stifling.
I think he's a good catch because he's a little more gentle and sensitive than the other boys. I don't know how that bodes for the future, but all the same. He's not a rough and tumble guy. Not a fan of dodge ball or 'war' games. Likes board games and his computer. Because he actually checks to see if people are ok and yells at kids who push, he's a little different mold for a 6 year old. Fart jokes and potty humor still apply, but after meeting a few more 6 year olds, I see that's programmed for the age.
He started his dating career with Morgan, a girl from his after school daycare that keeps trying to kiss him. Ugh !!! Where am I sending this kid? And here his dad is telling him to "get some". What class!!! :-(. Christian, much to my relief, says that kisses are gross, but hugs are ok. Thank God!!!! At what age does that perception change from guys?? ( or does it depend on the girl ;-) )
Then, this past Saturday, we went to one of his classmate's birthday parties where many of the students from his class were. One of these students was Holly, a very cute little blond headed girl. Christian and she paled around for most of the party. At the end of the party, he asked for her number. Where does he get this stuff ??? Her mom was there and thought it was cute, so I didn't stop it. Christian asked when he could call and mom replied late afternoon as they went to church and wouldn't be home until then.
Today, he played computer and watched the phone. Every half hour he asked what time it was although he can read time perfectly well himself. So, the time came to call and he did. (I wish I had those guts.Have you ever just tried to figure out what you'd say only to mess it all up when you called anyway? He seemed to have none of that anxiety) Her big sister was home and reported that everyone else was out. Uh-oh. He waited a few hours and called again and still, they were not home.
Christian was upset merely for the fact that he had promised to call and felt that he had not fulfilled his promise by not talking to her. My heart was in my throat thinking that here he was getting blown off. Now, _this_ would be following in his dad's footsteps. Sorry if that sounds cruel, but even he wouldn't deny it. Heck, I'll throw my footsteps in the gene pool too.
I do realize that being a first grader, provided he was getting blown off, this "whatever" will resolve itself in a matter of weeks if not days. I know that, but I can't help but being a little sad. He, on the other hand, is oblivious. This may be part of the problem, but is very good for this first grader and will most likely be his saving grace too. Understanding too much too soon.... baaaaddd.
I think everyone has an idea of what dads think when their girls become involved in mixed gender relationships, but I had no clue what a mom feels like for a son. I think my son is the cat's meow ( not to say that I'm not fully aware he has faults) AND I know nothing in first grade is leading to the alter (or I sure hope not). But seeing my very tender hearted boy even possibly get hurt by this is crushing. Even in first grade. Crap. What is going to happen in 4th, 7th, 9th and 11th grades? Maybe he won't be so tender hearted and go into these things for other reasons. (Ok. Not thinking like that.) But to see your son actually get hurt or potentially get hurt in these matters is..... heartwrenching.
I guess dads go into these things with baseball bats and moms go in with tissues and reasons to tell the girl of the hour to eat dirt for hurting her son. The verbiage gets stronger with more advanced ages mind you.
This could get complicated. Thank goodness it's only first grade and the only things at stake are invitations to birthday parties and play dates. Perhaps we can pass all this and call them play "casual get togethers"? Too much, I know.
May they all just eat Play-Do, pop heads off of figurines, and push each other down on the way to the swing forever. Handholding?? Only if you are arm wrestling.
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